It's easy to get completely lost in the new universe created by the birth of your baby. This one has so much need for parents, and especially for mom in the first months of life, that it seems you can't even spare a second for yourself. But love and dedication cannot be extinguished by a few moments of pause and detachment!
To be a good parent, you need to be happy, relaxed, and fulfilled. You need time for yourself, to take care of yourself, and give yourself a little attention and peace. You need balance, no matter how difficult it may seem to achieve. Maybe the moments of detachment are few, rare and short at first, but even so they make a difference because they teach you to think about yourself, even if only for a few minutes. As the child becomes more independent, it will be easier for you to return to things that bring you pleasure and joy if you've tried them again, even sporadically. Or maybe you'll realize that you no longer enjoy them and find others.
If you take time for yourself, you will be more relaxed, even if the break did not include a nap. Taking care of a baby is serious work and requires your attention 100% every second. But if you manage to reserve pleasant activities at least from time to time, you will find that they recharge your batteries and reduce fatigue. The result is more energetic and intense play with the little one, and much greater joy when spending time together, regardless of the activity.
The child feels you, intuits, even knows if you are tired or happy, exhausted or playful. Thus, for interactions as pleasant as possible, pauses are essential. These can be anything from ten minutes for a cup of tea to a walk with the dog, a few pages from a book, a bubble bath, an episode of a comedy, several minutes on social media, a phone conversation with a friend, or even a quarter-hour power nap. As the little one grows and becomes more independent, it can stay with grandparents or the other parent for longer periods. Then we are already talking about outings in town, meetings with friends, shopping, indoor sports or bike rides through the park, and any other activities that can bring relaxation and fulfillment.
Before you were a parent, you were an adult with passions, desires and dreams. Maybe they changed after the arrival of the baby, but they didn't disappear completely. Maybe your passion for eating out in town has transformed into the joy of cooking special desserts for the whole family. Regardless of the situation, don't forget that your personality, hobbies and how you take care of yourself are an example to the little one. You need to show them that it's important to be happy and fulfilled, and only then can you have a correct balance in relationships with other people, including the smallest ones.
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