Parenting life is full of tasks and daily chores, children's lives are crowded with activities, play and sleep, so sometimes there are important things that aren't said. There are some days that seem like a countdown race and where there's little time for the sweet words that matter most.
- I love you
Maybe it doesn't need to be mentioned, because all parents love their children and want what's best for them. But the fact that it's something so natural and obvious makes these words not spoken, because the feeling is self-evident. Even though it's not necessary to tell each other this every day, there are moments when these two words have a very great weight.
- It's okay to make mistakes
Many children feel embarrassed when they make mistakes. Whether it's putting on socks backwards or breaking a glass, they feel like they're disappointing their parents or committing a serious offense. That's why they should be told that everyone makes mistakes and it can happen to anyone! Depending on the situation, it might even be a small lesson to learn, but with kindness and patience, not with guilt.
- I'm proud of you
This is an encouragement we all need! However, children who want to make their parents proud and earn their admiration even more. We don't have to go to extremes with this, but in situations where the little ones show interest, exceed certain limits or have achievements of which they themselves are proud, we should confirm that they did a good job and that we are proud of them!
- I enjoy spending time together
Children wish to spend all their time with their parents, especially in the first years of life. Of course, this is not possible, either due to daily obligations (such as cleaning or cooking) or because one or both parents have a job. That's why they need to be told from time to time that the time spent together is special and that the grown-ups want just as much to be with the little ones. And, it's not just about telling them, but also showing them this.
- I learned something from you!
It's not just children who learn from adults, but also the other way around! We have a lot to gain if we look closely at how they manage their relationships, activities and failures. They forgive quickly, are totally involved in what they do and move quickly from one failure to a new adventure. Well, not always, but when it happens, it's worth analyzing, understanding and doing the same thing. That after we tell them that they did a great job and that they taught us something too in the process.
The list of words that warm our children's hearts is much longer, but these are a good starting point. They were inspired by the studies made by psychologist Katie Hurley, child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting expert and author of several books.
